Reality in Black and White
Written By Ken Gandy
Chapter 1.
REALITY DOES NOT COME IN JUST BLACK AND WHITE.
I am not exempt from life struggles, or life lessons.
God teaches us about Life, and the one thing I find true.
THERE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN.
Every day is a new day to learn, and grow. Even when you feel that you have learned the do right's and the do wrong's, you can still be effected by other things that are in this world. We can't always see where the danger comes from, even when we are in the same room with it.
I'm reminded of the news on TV where people in the school's or office buildings, go to work and someone there decides that today is the day to harm others for REVENGE of treatment to them, their love one's, or their money. A lot of times you try to protect your house from the inside, and the front door opens, and the danger walks right in.
When we go to the store there is danger, when we go to the park there is danger, when we drive down the street there is danger. So how can you really protect yourself and others from danger when you don’t know where it is, or where it is coming from? Not being able to protect yourself can change even you!
I am fully aware of the decisions that I make, and I try to make them for the better of everyone around me, so I am always helpful, always loving, and most of all always a father.
Always teaching others around me to be more aware of the reality, that they live through every day.
But what happens when I am the one faced with the problem?
How do you react? How do you feel? How do you move on?
And how do you repair the hearts and minds?
What happens when you are the head of the company, or the one who supposed to have all the answers?
What happens when you are the on everyone goes to for help, and you can't?
What happens when you are the one everyone blames for things that happen, and you have to stand there and take it? What happens when your works and deed's that you do for others come right back to your face only to be called false, and the ones you help, now forget what you have done for them, and now want to hurt you?
You find out just how many friends you really have. You find out how many places you can go, and how many people you can depend on. You find out what your true measure of a person you are, and can become.
I find that no one wants to serve others.
The fear that the master will not treat the one who serves him good, with the same respect, love, or passion in which they have been getting it can leave a sour taste in your mouth.
It can change you.
God wants us to serve him, and him only.
So when we serve him, we don’t think that he will allow certain problem's to come along. We may feel like we should be treated by our works and labor of love toward others. So to be treated by what we feel is badly, we began to take it personal, instead of looking at the whole picture, and realize the test is not to hurt you, but to move you into the next stage of your life.
A lot of time's we are doing a good service, but the service we are doing is not ours to do in the first place. We become what people say an enabler. What I mean is this....
I was taught to open doors for a woman, and let her go through first. "Yeah Manners."
So one day I was going into a restaurant to go eat, and several parties of 5 or more ladies, and older people came behind me. Now I will hold that door so they can come in, but keep in mind, I already had my party with me, and they were waiting on me to come in the door, so we could eat.
After about 15 min's later, and the more groups of people coming in the door, after a while I felt like a door man. I could not get off that door to go eat!
I was doing a good service, but at what cost to me, and my party? Turns out there were no tables left, and we had to wait a while to eat. Maybe only one of them said thank you for holding the door, or even said “Hey go ahead of us since you were here first."
I was mad, but at who?
Me!!
Because I felt that the treatment of me by others was not what I gave out, so why am I getting this back.
Have you ever felt like that? Or maybe you let someone in front of you go ahead in traffic, and then 20 cars later you’re still stuck behind all those cars you let go ahead of you.
You look up and see that first car way up there, and you ride the side lane to the spot where they are and ask to get in, and they say NO!!!
Many situations happen every day. Whether it is one of these, or another you feel, like why not? If I was nice, and kind, and did no one wrong, helped others, was patient, and most of all you were being, what you thought CHRISTIAN LIKE, you are now MAD.
It's not that we can’t get mad, the bible say's be not quick to wrath or make rash decision, before you find out what is really going on.
Anger is natural for the human kind, even some animals do it. But that is what separates us from the Animal kingdom.
Remember for everyone your mad at there is someone as equally or even more mad at you. Throwing rocks at a glass house, when you live in one yourself, can cause your house to crumble, fall and even shatter your very existence.
So what you don't like me. You don't live with me, nor do you sleep with me. You pay none of my bills, and you care for me not. But I still Love you.
Yes, even these types.
You know the ones. Some people watch everything, see everything, hear everything, and they know everything. You can't tell them any difference than what they know.
Facts are Fact's, and Reality has proven that they are right in feeling the way they feel, because the situation may fit what they want the situation to be. Motives play a part in the decision making process. To get over, to hurt, to harm, to gain, to conquer, to isolate, to move, to retreat, to position, to acquire, to get whatever you want at that time.
To love, to care for, to heal, to share, to teach, to learn, to hold close, to unite, to live, to free, to help others achieve a happier life. What you want out of life is always what you go and try to get. But the way in which you go about to getting it, and your mind set behind what you are trying to achieve it is what we find that god decides to bless you, or curse you.
I think that something’s on this earth are not to be messed with, and the penalty for doing so, is so great that you can end up where you don’t want to be. Taking the time out to re-evaluate your life, and situations can cause you to see your Reality in BLACK and White.
When you look at things with your normal eye, you see colors. So many colors that you can't really see the difference of thing's till you take the time out, or it pops out in a different shade that you have never seen before.
We say the LIGHT BULB HAS CLICKED ON!
Mine has for sure. Take a look at your life, and see if your actions are ones that other's look at and find a reason to say you are not being real, or have an another motive behind what you do. Or let your actions speak for themselves, and the truth will emerge like a soldier on a white horse. Clean and True.
But they have to be just that.
Time heals all wounds, but the scars of emotions heartfelt through this frail, sometimes helpless body, need more than time. They need GOD. I found it so hard to pray for my enemies. And wishing them good luck and cheer was not in the question...
Because the action's of those, whom I gave the title of "enemies", in the first place meant that I didn't want no good to come to them because of the treatment they gave me or someone close to me. The bible tells us to love our enemies as well as our friends.
Have you ever had an enemy help you through something faster than a good close friend? It can blow your mind. I always thanked my friends, and loved them for the friendship they gave. But once they crossed me, I found it hard to forgive. We say that they should have known better.
We make excuses for people when we want to, not always because it is the right thing to do, but to ease the problem. What about when you are just wrong, as wrong can be?
Who excuses you!!
Well I tell you that once you open your eyes, allow your mind to think, use your position to make right, and your heart becomes a place of healing you change your outlook on life, and you start to be free to love again, and your life blossoms.
Holding on to the wrong done to you, can make you a person worst than the actual event that occurred.
Bitterness can become a seed of destruction, and all you need is words of hatred to water them.
Then the war is on. Learn how to sow seeds of good, and use god's word to water your soul. Fill your spirit with his passion, and live according to his will. Your life will become a pure garden, and you will reap the benefits of greatness.
Your life will tell your history, and your children will learn to be vessels of light. Taking your old ways and exchanging them for new ones. Believe in him, and he will take the color out of your life, and allow you to see the real Reality in plain old BLACK and White.
The Truth.
I pray for you all to be able to become closer to god, and let him do the rest.
Future -vs -Past history
To move on from one life to another, can be scary.
Almost like the first time you move out your parent's house, and into your own. Or from one relationship to another.
Or even from one job to a new, not always because you want to, but because you have to. But the newness in your life can create a sense of better things to come. To travel to a place you never been, or to meet new people and get to be whoever you want to be for the first time in a long time...
Like a baby being born all over again...
The tenderness of a touch, can feel so good when it is not tainted with the old life you lived up to that point.
The first time you make a cake, and you never baked before, or you always burned the pot on the stove vowing that this time you will get it right..
Have you ever felt like you just need to start over new?
Or maybe you felt like if you just added something new to an old situation, the flare would become highlighted and the bright blaze would stir the old fire to burn brighter... Almost like cooking on a grill and the ashes go out... But if you just stir up those old coals, you may find that the fire is still burning deep down inside, and can still light your way.
I met someone the other day, and they taught me something I never knew, but at the same time, I was able to share with them. I felt the old fire start to burn; I start to remember what was important to me, and burn baby burn...
Passion isn't always in your mind, or even in your heart, or even in your pants...
Passion can be felt through someone else's life, and you can feed off what they thought was dead coals, and give you a new perspective on your life to live again. I can see where I was feeling mistreated, unloved, off balanced, and most of all helpless because my focus was on everything, but not on me.
Not on my love, not on my kids, not on my life... Do this for me, be there for me, take care of me, and understand me.
Me, Me, Me, Always Me.....
And I was sitting there saying everything is all about you? What about Me?
While no one wants to stop complaining, nothing gets fixed. If I do for you, and you do for me, our needs are being met! To be one, is to be one. There is no little you, or big me.
It takes us both to make it.
Yes I'm tired, and you are to. But together we can find strength to make it. You dress us, and I'll help us walk. Take care of each other, and we can live side by side in a different kind of peace.
Till next time...
I am The Author Ken Gandy.
Find out who you are.
Written By Ken Gandy
Chapter 1.
REALITY DOES NOT COME IN JUST BLACK AND WHITE.
I am not exempt from life struggles, or life lessons.
God teaches us about Life, and the one thing I find true.
THERE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN.
Every day is a new day to learn, and grow. Even when you feel that you have learned the do right's and the do wrong's, you can still be effected by other things that are in this world. We can't always see where the danger comes from, even when we are in the same room with it.
I'm reminded of the news on TV where people in the school's or office buildings, go to work and someone there decides that today is the day to harm others for REVENGE of treatment to them, their love one's, or their money. A lot of times you try to protect your house from the inside, and the front door opens, and the danger walks right in.
When we go to the store there is danger, when we go to the park there is danger, when we drive down the street there is danger. So how can you really protect yourself and others from danger when you don’t know where it is, or where it is coming from? Not being able to protect yourself can change even you!
I am fully aware of the decisions that I make, and I try to make them for the better of everyone around me, so I am always helpful, always loving, and most of all always a father.
Always teaching others around me to be more aware of the reality, that they live through every day.
But what happens when I am the one faced with the problem?
How do you react? How do you feel? How do you move on?
And how do you repair the hearts and minds?
What happens when you are the head of the company, or the one who supposed to have all the answers?
What happens when you are the on everyone goes to for help, and you can't?
What happens when you are the one everyone blames for things that happen, and you have to stand there and take it? What happens when your works and deed's that you do for others come right back to your face only to be called false, and the ones you help, now forget what you have done for them, and now want to hurt you?
You find out just how many friends you really have. You find out how many places you can go, and how many people you can depend on. You find out what your true measure of a person you are, and can become.
I find that no one wants to serve others.
The fear that the master will not treat the one who serves him good, with the same respect, love, or passion in which they have been getting it can leave a sour taste in your mouth.
It can change you.
God wants us to serve him, and him only.
So when we serve him, we don’t think that he will allow certain problem's to come along. We may feel like we should be treated by our works and labor of love toward others. So to be treated by what we feel is badly, we began to take it personal, instead of looking at the whole picture, and realize the test is not to hurt you, but to move you into the next stage of your life.
A lot of time's we are doing a good service, but the service we are doing is not ours to do in the first place. We become what people say an enabler. What I mean is this....
I was taught to open doors for a woman, and let her go through first. "Yeah Manners."
So one day I was going into a restaurant to go eat, and several parties of 5 or more ladies, and older people came behind me. Now I will hold that door so they can come in, but keep in mind, I already had my party with me, and they were waiting on me to come in the door, so we could eat.
After about 15 min's later, and the more groups of people coming in the door, after a while I felt like a door man. I could not get off that door to go eat!
I was doing a good service, but at what cost to me, and my party? Turns out there were no tables left, and we had to wait a while to eat. Maybe only one of them said thank you for holding the door, or even said “Hey go ahead of us since you were here first."
I was mad, but at who?
Me!!
Because I felt that the treatment of me by others was not what I gave out, so why am I getting this back.
Have you ever felt like that? Or maybe you let someone in front of you go ahead in traffic, and then 20 cars later you’re still stuck behind all those cars you let go ahead of you.
You look up and see that first car way up there, and you ride the side lane to the spot where they are and ask to get in, and they say NO!!!
Many situations happen every day. Whether it is one of these, or another you feel, like why not? If I was nice, and kind, and did no one wrong, helped others, was patient, and most of all you were being, what you thought CHRISTIAN LIKE, you are now MAD.
It's not that we can’t get mad, the bible say's be not quick to wrath or make rash decision, before you find out what is really going on.
Anger is natural for the human kind, even some animals do it. But that is what separates us from the Animal kingdom.
Remember for everyone your mad at there is someone as equally or even more mad at you. Throwing rocks at a glass house, when you live in one yourself, can cause your house to crumble, fall and even shatter your very existence.
So what you don't like me. You don't live with me, nor do you sleep with me. You pay none of my bills, and you care for me not. But I still Love you.
Yes, even these types.
You know the ones. Some people watch everything, see everything, hear everything, and they know everything. You can't tell them any difference than what they know.
Facts are Fact's, and Reality has proven that they are right in feeling the way they feel, because the situation may fit what they want the situation to be. Motives play a part in the decision making process. To get over, to hurt, to harm, to gain, to conquer, to isolate, to move, to retreat, to position, to acquire, to get whatever you want at that time.
To love, to care for, to heal, to share, to teach, to learn, to hold close, to unite, to live, to free, to help others achieve a happier life. What you want out of life is always what you go and try to get. But the way in which you go about to getting it, and your mind set behind what you are trying to achieve it is what we find that god decides to bless you, or curse you.
I think that something’s on this earth are not to be messed with, and the penalty for doing so, is so great that you can end up where you don’t want to be. Taking the time out to re-evaluate your life, and situations can cause you to see your Reality in BLACK and White.
When you look at things with your normal eye, you see colors. So many colors that you can't really see the difference of thing's till you take the time out, or it pops out in a different shade that you have never seen before.
We say the LIGHT BULB HAS CLICKED ON!
Mine has for sure. Take a look at your life, and see if your actions are ones that other's look at and find a reason to say you are not being real, or have an another motive behind what you do. Or let your actions speak for themselves, and the truth will emerge like a soldier on a white horse. Clean and True.
But they have to be just that.
Time heals all wounds, but the scars of emotions heartfelt through this frail, sometimes helpless body, need more than time. They need GOD. I found it so hard to pray for my enemies. And wishing them good luck and cheer was not in the question...
Because the action's of those, whom I gave the title of "enemies", in the first place meant that I didn't want no good to come to them because of the treatment they gave me or someone close to me. The bible tells us to love our enemies as well as our friends.
Have you ever had an enemy help you through something faster than a good close friend? It can blow your mind. I always thanked my friends, and loved them for the friendship they gave. But once they crossed me, I found it hard to forgive. We say that they should have known better.
We make excuses for people when we want to, not always because it is the right thing to do, but to ease the problem. What about when you are just wrong, as wrong can be?
Who excuses you!!
Well I tell you that once you open your eyes, allow your mind to think, use your position to make right, and your heart becomes a place of healing you change your outlook on life, and you start to be free to love again, and your life blossoms.
Holding on to the wrong done to you, can make you a person worst than the actual event that occurred.
Bitterness can become a seed of destruction, and all you need is words of hatred to water them.
Then the war is on. Learn how to sow seeds of good, and use god's word to water your soul. Fill your spirit with his passion, and live according to his will. Your life will become a pure garden, and you will reap the benefits of greatness.
Your life will tell your history, and your children will learn to be vessels of light. Taking your old ways and exchanging them for new ones. Believe in him, and he will take the color out of your life, and allow you to see the real Reality in plain old BLACK and White.
The Truth.
I pray for you all to be able to become closer to god, and let him do the rest.
Future -vs -Past history
To move on from one life to another, can be scary.
Almost like the first time you move out your parent's house, and into your own. Or from one relationship to another.
Or even from one job to a new, not always because you want to, but because you have to. But the newness in your life can create a sense of better things to come. To travel to a place you never been, or to meet new people and get to be whoever you want to be for the first time in a long time...
Like a baby being born all over again...
The tenderness of a touch, can feel so good when it is not tainted with the old life you lived up to that point.
The first time you make a cake, and you never baked before, or you always burned the pot on the stove vowing that this time you will get it right..
Have you ever felt like you just need to start over new?
Or maybe you felt like if you just added something new to an old situation, the flare would become highlighted and the bright blaze would stir the old fire to burn brighter... Almost like cooking on a grill and the ashes go out... But if you just stir up those old coals, you may find that the fire is still burning deep down inside, and can still light your way.
I met someone the other day, and they taught me something I never knew, but at the same time, I was able to share with them. I felt the old fire start to burn; I start to remember what was important to me, and burn baby burn...
Passion isn't always in your mind, or even in your heart, or even in your pants...
Passion can be felt through someone else's life, and you can feed off what they thought was dead coals, and give you a new perspective on your life to live again. I can see where I was feeling mistreated, unloved, off balanced, and most of all helpless because my focus was on everything, but not on me.
Not on my love, not on my kids, not on my life... Do this for me, be there for me, take care of me, and understand me.
Me, Me, Me, Always Me.....
And I was sitting there saying everything is all about you? What about Me?
While no one wants to stop complaining, nothing gets fixed. If I do for you, and you do for me, our needs are being met! To be one, is to be one. There is no little you, or big me.
It takes us both to make it.
Yes I'm tired, and you are to. But together we can find strength to make it. You dress us, and I'll help us walk. Take care of each other, and we can live side by side in a different kind of peace.
Till next time...
I am The Author Ken Gandy.
Find out who you are.
